Shary's Proposal {wedding week}

Hello everyone! I'm Shary and I am guest posting for Rebecca from Shary Loves You. I post occasional reviews and/or giveaways, crafts, recipes, mini adventures, and anything else that makes me happy. I am a mother, a daughter, a friend... and I suppose fiancé fits the bill now too!

It's not every day a girl gets engaged. People hype up the experience to be something magical, unexpected, emotional. Our experience was lovely, but I'll tell you "unconventional" doesn't even begin to explain our story!

It was my birthday last year, the big two-five. My boyfriend Hutch and I had been dating off and on since 2007 and we finally decided that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. He claimed I was his soul mate, and when we hugged it was like puzzle pieces relaxing into each other.

We're not really the mushy type, but he's  a sensitive guy and I'm a rather needy girl. We aren't all over each other in public but we hold hands, I rest on his shoulder, and we exchange tiny pecks when neither of us is engaged in conversation. Basically we're not trying to make anyone vomit, but we're not ashamed of our love either. A love like the one we share is really special to me, and I wasn't about to let it pass me by.

So it was like 2 am on my birthday. We're sitting on the couch talking and enjoying each other. I was on his lap and we were talking about me. We were discussing my life thus far and how I could make it a happier place to be in. I mentioned how I enjoyed having him there, with me. How it was hard to imagine myself without him. My future included him and I asked if he felt the same. "Of course," he said. (He always says that, "of course..." as if my questions about his devotion are silly.)

In that moment he kissed me. As we kissed I slipped a ring on his finger. He paused, looked at his hand and then back at me. "Will you marry me?" I asked. And folks, he said yes.

Yeah. I'm just kind of a ballsy girl I guess. I wasn't trying to take any kind of "manly rights" away or "assert my dominance" or anything silly like that, which some people think when we tell our story. I just didn't want him to get away, you know? And I've had several of my lady friends just kind of stress themselves out about waiting for the proposals, sometimes completely ruining relationships because they feel like that lack of the next step means their significant other doesn't love them. Nonsense I tell you.

Our wedding is planned for October 2013. We do have a  baby boy due in March, so we'll see how that goes. (We do everything out of order, it's how we roll.) I don't want to be bloated or feel insecure because I want our most lavish expense to be my wedding gown. How fast I can slim down determines whether or not the wedding happens this year. Need-less-to-say we aren't printing up invitations or anything. However, we do have some plans...

It's going to be a rustic wedding. We'll find a field and line the isles with blanket covered hay bales for people to sit on for the ceremony. The colors are tan and teal with grey accents. My brides maids will have short, teal dresses with grey sashes. My maid of honor will have a tan sash. My dress will be tan, sleeveless, corset style with a long poofy princess feel. My daughter (she's 5 now) will have  short tan dress with a teal sash as the flower girl. The groom and his men will have khakis with teal suspenders. Hutch will rock a gray and teal pinstriped vest instead. :)

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The reception will have mason jar vases, "advice" bunting with cards for guests to fill out, and most likely tons of burlap. There will be disposable cameras on every table. Our song is "I Don't Want To Set the World on Fire" by The Ink Spots and the music will follow a"retro" feel most of the night until the grandmothers and children head off to sleep.

I also want to learn an acoustic version of "Near You Always" by Jewel as a surprise. I'm not sure how I feel about that though... I could never learn to play guitar well and I have terrible stage fright. Wish me luck!

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  1. This is utterly adorable, I'm in awe and inspiration at how you guys love each other so much. You deserve an amazing wedding Shary, thanks so much for writing for us.

  2. I cant wait to read every post this week! I just got engaged last month and currently planning my wedding for August this year.

  3. Awwww... that's wonderful. And way to go for stepping up and taking matters in your own hands!! I wish y'all many years of bliss!!

  4. Aww! This story was great! I never knew how you two got engaged. :) I admire a woman who is ballsy enough to propose herself. :)

    I'm so happy for you and Hutch.

  5. Aw, your story is so adorable! I'm super excited for your wedding plans, as that dress is freakin' awesome!! I also love the hay bale idea AND you can do this wedding on a budget and it still come out beautiful. =)